What is it like being married for 10 years?

On By somegeektoldme@gmail.comIn Parents, People

I hope everybody enjoyed Star Wars Day and Free Comic Book Day over the weekend! We did and we also enjoyed something else too. The main person to blame about anything concerning New Zealand’s 5th least favourite website just celebrated his 10th wedding anniversary. And for those of you not keeping up, that’s me, by the way.

I’ll be honest with you about something. Celebrating 10 years of married life wasn’t something I ever thought I was capable of doing, let alone getting married in the first place! Seriously.

Image by Pexels from Pixabay

So what is it like being married for 10 years? Is it good, bad or somewhere in between? Before I begin, I’m talking about this from a male’s perspective, but some of these observations can easily be transferred to females as well.

  • You listen to the same stories your spouse tells new people and pretend you’ve never heard them before. And vice versa.
  • You can’t remember what you gave to your spouse for their birthday and anniversary, for the last four years. 
  • Your spouse has an instant recall of a conversation you had with them five years ago, but you can’t remember what you had for dinner last night.
  • You can trust your spouse to order takeaways on your behalf and get the order 95% correct. 
  • Your house is littered with half-finished projects that you or your spouse have started and then abandoned for different reasons.
  • Your spouse knows your sleeping habits better than you. 
  • Because you’re a one-income family, you save money by having your spouse give you and your children the same haircut. 
  • You and your spouse have an unofficial rule of swapping the “good parent, bad parent” routine around when dealing with your children. 
  • When you or your spouse mention an ex’s name that has not been discussed before, the mood in the room changes.
  • Any form of competition between you and your spouse must be handled with respect and fairly. No Monopoly!
  • Your spouse seems to know where everything is in the house, except their belongings.
  • You and your spouse have different chores that you do around your home, so when your spouse does one of yours, your brain wants to shut down because it can’t compute what’s just happened. 
  • When you’ve made your signature dinner meal, and your spouse politely mentions that it’s the 18th time that month, that you have made that exact meal.
  • The amazing music you played at your wedding, is now mall/supermarket background music. 
  • You both have different ways to fold the washing; which you argue over, but you never want to fold the washing alone. 
  • If someone other than your spouse flirts with you, you don’t even register it.
  • Gaslighting your spouse is either extremely funny, brave or dangerous. 
  • Looking back at photos of your wedding, makes you rage because you and your spouse look so refreshed and young. 
  • You still make rookie mistakes with your children, after your spouse has pointed it out. 
  • You and your spouse can be each other’s translators in new social situations. 
  • If you or your spouse have taken the wedding ring off for whatever reason, you’re reminded in a semi-friendly way to put it back on. 

Occasionally my wife reads these posts, so I need to tread carefully. So in case she does read this, I think being married for 10 years is wonderful!

Have you been married for 10 years or more? Have I missed any observations? As always, please let me know.

That’s another post for another week. Thanks again for reading, following, and subscribing to Some Geek Told Me. Don’t forget to walk your dog, read a banned book, go Phoenix FC, and I’ll see you next week because the Tour of the Solar System is crawling back again!